It may be for the best. The plans you made for spending the money are behind you now, and you can focus on what really makes you happy. So you didn’t get the new car? Maybe you can go see someone who makes you really happy in the one you have! Or maybe you didn’t get to pay for your kids new house, but maybe you can help them find the one they can afford. There are so many ways to be happy and you can claim them for yourself. Find out interesting ways to reframe your lottery loss.
WE’RE taught that the ideal romance story involves butterflies at first glance, then being wooed by the perfect guy or girl, won over, and then living happily ever after. But Dr Nancy Mramor Kajuth, health and media psychologist and award-winning author of Get Reel: Produce Your Own Life, has found that romantic comedies and movies are unconsciously influencing our expectations for relationships and oftentimes result in couples giving up control on what they really want in the relationship.
Dr Kajuth, who resides in Pittsburgh and has worked in media for over 25 years, told All Woman that romance movies give a false impression of love, and while she doesn’t have a problem with people watching them, she said it is paramount that they are able to separate themselves from the myths that are perpetuated in the media regarding love and relationships.
The time you spend on your digital devices watching TV and movies or browsing the Internet can really enrich your life—or not! You can become hypnotized by media and take on beliefs that aren’t true to your goals if you aren’t viewing consciously.
Media is a powerful resource for information, entertainment and education. TV shows, movies, magazines, and the Internet bring the sounds of the great composers, fitness routines and directions for do-it-yourself projects, not to mention suspense, comedy and action, right to your home. And they’re doing a great job! But if you aren’t paying attention, the media may subliminally plant some ideas in your mind that won’t serve you well. Like someone in a hypnotic trance, you may begin to live by these beliefs without realizing that you even have them.
Superstar Adele guards her personal life, with her longtime love, Simon and their son, and doesn’t share details of their lives with the public. What about you? Has anyone ever shared details of photos of you that you did not want the world to see?
And what about your own children? Does you son or daughter really think the video of them falling off of a skateboard is funny? Do your friends appreciate that you posted an embarrassing photo of them?
After working as a media and health psychologist for over 25 years, I have witnessed the effects of all types of media on people, and I can tell you that unless you have some conscious viewing skills, it is likely that you are experiencing some unpleasant side effects from too much, or the wrong kind of media exposure.
There are lots of reasons to post online and there are several reasons not to post. First, let’s look at the upside of social media.
5 Dos of Social Media
The relationship you have with a famous athlete is complicated. You invite them into your living room so often that you feel like you know them! And you miss them when they are gone; that is because of something called parasitical relationships. Learn more at Refinery29,
The same thing applies to TV characters, but the relationship is a little different. You can learn more at: https://drnancyonline.com/wpbhdrxtv-what-happens-when-your-favorite-character-dies-on-tv/.
Whether it is a soap opera, Game of Thrones or a comedy, sometimes TV characters that you adore get killed or die of natural causes. And sometimes, depending upon how attached you are to the character, you may feel some sadness or even denial. “But he can’t really be dead, you say,” and “She may have fallen off of a cliff but we didn’t see her die so maybe she is still alive,” are common things that I hear. And you know that often, a character will die for a while and then come back, if the actor has to make a movie and will be gone for a couple of years, or is pursuing other options. So the tendency to wish them back isn’t unrealistic, but can be a symptom of denial, the first stage of grieving. I was interviewed recently about this very topic, and the reporter wanted to know, ” What does it mean when you can’t admit that your favorite character is dead?” Click here to read more.
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Originally published in Pennsylvania Guide to Good Health.
By Nancy Kennedy
In 2015, we exist in a sea of media. Daily, from dawn to dark, the media is available, primarily through technology in our homes, cars, workplaces and schools. There seems to be no escape from the constant messages that seek to entertain, inform and persuade us. They come to us in a wide variety of ways – from newspapers and magazines to TV shows, radio and the Internet. Although we invite the media in, it often feels overwhelming, and can impact health and well-being. Studies have shown that constant media intake may have consequences to one’s physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.
Your child is sitting with cartoons, joyfully laughing at the characters antics and silly plots, or teaching social interaction skills so necessary for growing up strong. It may give you a sense of security that all is well with your child, and often it is so. But if you have children from six to fourteen years of age, you may want to watch the types of cartoon characters they are viewing. Students who viewed overweight characters who were then offered candy, ate more than those who watched normal-weight characters.
Imagine a weekend at home with nothing but you, your caramel cinnamon popcorn and DVDs of all five seasons of Breaking Bad. You have nothing else on your agenda, your feet are carefully positioned on your favorite stuffed ottoman. You and your partner or a good friend are comfortably snuggled up under a fuzzy blanket. It sounds like a lot of fun to catch-up on a favorite series, check out one you’ve never watched on video or tune into Decades TV for reruns of your favorite old show marathons. But when is too much viewing too much? Often when what you binge view is crime and violence related or interferes with another important activity.
Ever Wonder Why Stories Go Viral?
Recently, I was asked recently to comment on why a news story got tens of thousands of hits on the Internet. The story involved conflicting stories about a dog bite in a veterinarian’s office near Sarasota Florida. After a dog was held in custody, there was an outpouring of sympathy for the dog, but not for the victim. Some of the reasons this story went viral explain how many stories hit the Internet running.
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