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3 Ways to Create Endings and Beginnings

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Have you ever had trouble letting go of a relationship, a car, a habit, clutter, “stuff” in your house, or that book you have been planning to read for the past few years? Release is an issue that almost everyone has to deal with at some time in life, whether you are releasing old belongings, a dysfunctional relationship, a career or even a loved one. Release can be challenging whether you choose to let go of something or it is imposed upon you, but there are skills and attitudes you can adapt that will make it much easier.

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THE INNER COMMITTEE: Part One

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What Is the Inner Committee and Why Is It Important For Self-Love?

Do you often feel as though you are arguing with yourself? That part of you wants to start a project, write a book or change your health habits and the other would rather watch Seinfeld reruns and eat Twinkies? That is because you are comprised of not just one personality aspect or type, but really of an Inner Committee of different aspects. You can’t fire parts you don’t like, and they all go out with you each day into the world as you live your life. It is as if they all get on a bus, with you as the driver, but your happiness that day depends on which part of the committee is driving. You can let stronger or more balanced parts of you drive when you need motivation, gentler parts when you need to be kind to yourself and others. Parts that don’t function well can heal and pitch in to make the committee stronger. But knowing more about the Inner Committee will expand your personal growth in a big way, putting you in a position to achieve any goal you set for yourself.

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THE INNER COMMITTEE: Part Two

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Who Is On Your Inner Committee?

Stuck Parts of the Inner Committee

​Have you ever felt that you can’t move forward in your life even though you want to? Have you ever felt that you can’t impose your will in your own life? There are many different parts of the self that are not subconscious, but are simply stuck. You may be aware of feelings of shame, fear, or ineffectiveness, that keep you from moving forward, and yet are not exactly sure why. Let’s look at some of the messages that these parts of the self may be sending to you.

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THE INNER COMMITTEE: Part Three

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Relationships: How Does Your Committee Relate to Other Committee Members?

​We have discussed each of the different committee meetings and how they may show up. We have looked at the fact that there are far more parts of the self and individual kinds of selves than we could ever imaging, but we have gotten a good handle on why they work and how they work in our lives. Now it is time to look at how they work together. If you have ever been on a committee, you know what they’re like! The expression that a camel is a horse made by a committee often sums up the way in which they work. Some committees flow and others don’t. Let’s look at some of the reasons and ways in which committees can function together in relationships.

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The power of EMDR to heal pain and past trauma

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Originally from at Dr. Nancy’s Podcast at LESS STRESSED LIFE with Christa Biegler



The Power of EMDR to Heal Past Pains and Trauma
with Dr. Nancy Mramor 
Less Stressed Life : Upleveling Life, Health & Happiness

Listen to the Podcast to find out more

What if the pain of past traumas could be reprocessed so that they no longer have a traumatic effect on you every time you recall them? Sound like magic? Actually, it’s based in brain research on how we store our memories, both the painful traumatizing ones and the happy unforgettable ones! When you think of an old unhappy memory, it’s like taking a file out of a file drawer in the brain, then reading it and getting upset again before putting it right back where it was. But if you choose to think about it using the techniques of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, it can be but a minor memory that may not make you happy to reconsider, but certainly won’t retraumatize you. It may even change your thoughts about the memory to much healthier ones!

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Forgiveness: The Key to Unlock Your Future

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Inspired by Associated Press interview

Would you like to soar ahead in life unencumbered by emotional baggage? Then ask yourself: Is there anyone that you need to forgive or who needs to forgive you? Holding onto hurts, resentments of grudges takes up a lot of energy, even when you aren’t thinking about it. It’s like carrying a backpack that you have forgotten is there and yet it weighs you down. This is true for any emotional baggage, but especially for people that you carry in the pack that you have not forgiven.

And why is it so hard to forgive or even forget? Because there is an erroneous belief that forgiving someone makes what they did alright. There could not be anything further from the truth. When you forgive, you are not saying that what happened was acceptable, or that it wasn’t hurtful, or even that you think the person who did should be let off the hook. It merely says that you are done carrying the emotional hurt that gives away your personal power and holds you both in a knot of distress.

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AWARDS, HONORS, BELLS, AND WHISTLES: DO YOU NEED THEM?

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Originally from Best Ever You Network.

After publishing my first book, I won the same award for that book, Spiritual Fitness as the Dalai Lama won in a different category, I was so shocked that I could have dropped the award! I was so deeply touched and in disbelief.  Then I thought of the usual protocol that I see on so many social media posts: “humbled and honored.”  Was I humbled and honored?  I was certainly humbled, because of the notable connection. And what I really felt was surprised, deliriously happy and grateful.

There are a lot of awards and recognitions available to those who would seek them. And they do lend credibility to your work.  But there are important questions to ask yourself before you journey down the path of recognition. So, prior to putting yourself out there check out the possible outcomes so that you can make it a winning adventure no matter how the story ends.

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GET REEL®: Produce Your Own Life

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Click here to listen to an interview on Hayhouse Radio

Get Reel and Produce Your Own Life with Deb Scott and Dr. Nancy
Produce Your Own Life! Gettin

Before you click the remote one more time, let me tell you that media is one of the top three things that shape your life. Let me also tell you that this news could be the best news you have ever heard, if you know what to do with it! Think of the power you have will have to make decisions! After your parents and teachers, the television, Internet and movies shape what you think, who you become and your level of happiness. Why does it matter? Because your goals, ideas, motivations, thoughts, and personal strengths and insecurities have been influenced by your media viewing choices.

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Why are Hallmark Christmas movies so popular?

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Join Dr. Nancy with reporter Nikki Battiste on CBS This Morning
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/hallmark-channel-lgbtq-christmas-movie/

Hallmark must be doing something right; millions of people watch their Holiday movies and say that it is part of their holiday tradition.  But why? It’s partly because the brain likes things that are familiar! The plot of the hero/heroine, who meet, experience some tension before getting together, have helpful friends and finally have a happy ending after the final conflict is a story as old as time.  And it’s good storytelling!!  Remember the Wizard of Oz, the Star Wars movies, and many romantic comedies, like When Harry Met Sally, Moonstruck, and Sleepless in Seattle?  We love the story and we especially love the happy ending. And the brain feels safe and secure, and especially familiar when all ends well. It’s what is called in mythology, The Hero’s Journey.

If you are feeling well, it magnifies your feelings, but if you are feeling down, it uplifts you.  And as you see familiar actors in different movies, you feel that they are like family, since they are so often in your living room! Some of the actors are even actors you saw as a child or teen, so they are especially comfortable to see again. Even the props and settings feel familiar as all the films are taped in the same studio.

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How to Detox After The Election: 7 Ways to Recharge

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Originally for THE WASHINGTON POST, November 2020

WHY DETOX AFTER THE ELECTION? It has been a long, close election, and for many a stressful one. And it takes a toll on your body and mind after a while. The longer the stress, the worse for the immune system and all of the body’s organs due to the fact that the nervous system has been fired-up and on high gear, keeping you in a hypervigilant stress response. But there are some steps you can take to move ahead in ways that are healthier for your mind, body and spirit.

1 CELEBRATE OR COMMISERATE – have your feelings, talk about your feelings or journal them to get them out. Talk with others about ways to move forward and express how you feel. DO SELF-CARE to release all the long standing tension.  Or depending upon your preference, CELEBRATE in a way that lends itself to SELF-CARE.

2 MEND RELATIONSHIPS – without gloating or carrying a negative intention, be sure that you mend any relationships that may have been stressed or damaged by political arguments and differences.  The relationship is more important than politics. Focus on what brings you together and put any disagreements behind you. 

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