Dr. Nancy Mramor is an Award-Winning Author, Media Expert and Guest, International Speaker and Psychologist/Coach. She has appeared on hundreds of Radio, TV and print media placements, as a host, guest, producer, script consultant and expert. Television networks that have called upon Dr. Nancy for her expertise include Fox, PBS, NBC, ABC, CBS, and MSN. Her research on how television consciously and unconsciously educates viewers proved to be significant beyond a doubt, clearly revealing how and why the programs we view shape our lives.
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I don’t know where we would we be without media. It brings history and art into our living rooms, educates us on how to make the perfect cupcakes or remodel your patio. It entertains, and keeps us on the edge of our seats and we love to be entertained with our TV, movies and Internet.
Yet, viewing is not a conscious experience. It brings into your subconscious, ideas about who you are, and what you should think, buy and do without a single awareness that it is happening. It’s like hypnosis. The scenes, words, dialog and visuals entertain you but at the same time, enter your mind and heart subconsciously, and hypnotically, and become your goals, your self- esteem and your beliefs, without you even knowing it happened. This can be a good thing or not, depending on how consciously you view.
Our personal lives are highly affected by what we see in movies, TV and the Internet. And Relationships are especially affected by what we see in the media. In many cases, the ideas about love “As seen on TV,” include lots of high-level romance that could not possibly be sustained in real life. Below are some questions and answers about the difference between “reel love” and “real love.”
Q & A
Q – When we talk about media and relationships, how does the media affect how we relate to a partner?
A – The love that you see on the screen is not like real love in real life. There is the issue of Relationship Script Reading. You hear the things that great romantics say and do and you expect to have them in your own relationships. You will even find yourself thinking, “ I wish my partner would look at me that way,” or “He is so affectionate; I wish my partner was that way.”
The difference is that in real life there are real people and they are far from perfect. Seeing and showing gratitude for the traits you partner does have will go much further toward creating a lasting relationship.
Q – What are some other things that we see in movies and TV that cause unrealistic ideas about relationships?
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A – There is the issue that love has to have a story and it has to be a long one, sometimes drawn out over many years, with many obstacles. It creates the illusion or trance that love must be difficult. In the Get Reel® chapter entitled TV GUIDE to Love and Sex, you learn that in movies and TV, you have to battle great adversity and conflict to be together. The theme is that love MUST be difficult. And this is not a theme to take into your own life. View consciously using the trance breakers in Get Reel®.
No story is more recognizable than the quest for love, money or success. Far away there is a goal worth more than rubies, and the hero must risk everything to have it. The movie Somewhere In Time, aired every Valentine’s Day, is considered by many to be the most romantic movie of all time and most of you know how that ends! (Everyone dies.) In love, the quest begins with meeting the soul mate and experiencing obstacles and challenges to connecting with them. Many plots about love include stages you must go through to find love, including the longing, followed by the quest, and then the obstacles along the way. By the time the lovers unite you are relieved and happy. Which brings me to the next trance of viewing, the Happy Endings.
Real Love does not all work out well in the end. If it did, the first person you are ever attracted to might become your life mate. The happy ending is an American concept that you will not see in foreign films. They not only don’t usually end happily, but sometimes they don’t end at all, leaving you to decide how it would end.
Q – What is the prescription?
A – RxTV for Love
- RxTV for Love
- View while consciously identifying the message of the love story.
- Decide how you really feel about the success of the love-seeking strategy and sequence in real life.
- Decide what you would do, instead, if you reject the character’s strategy. What is true to your authentic self, what you want from a relationship and how consciously you can relate to a partner.
And the C for today is :
Consciously watch something you already watch. What are some underlying messages of the show? Do you accept of reject them?
More about Real Conscious Relationships later……
To follow the Top Ten Cs of Conscious Viewing see GET REEL®
Wishing you conscious relationships,